Nothing is what I thought

Do you like to get intimate with fear ? Do you like to feel disappointed? Normally I would said no. I’d usually ran away from fear and I would hate to feel disappointed.

Within almost four decades I have had certain moments where pain, difficulty and misery have affected me somehow. After the death of my Father – and the process of his disease, a divorce, and other devastating events such as break- ups-, problems at work and other situations, that I sometimes used to call or see them as failures

As many others, I’ve been running away from fear and from the fear of suffering. Instead, I had always put in place hopeto block the fear from coming. The thing is that fear and hope are actually two sides of the same coin. The hope we create in our minds is nothing but an illusion. An illusion like: “everything will be better”, “we will find the right person”, “we will get perfect job”, etc. For now I’d say: hope is not something we really need, because all we need is what we have NOW.

The only thing that really exists is the now. In the case of fear/pain, I had finally face it, recently. Even though I’ve always thought it was horrible, because suffering involves crying and pain for hours-days-months sometimes, those days when you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep and on, but after all theres something I liked about it. When you finally face your fears and suffer, what you’re doing is that you’re opening your heart. You are growing stronger.  It’s in the midst of troubled times when you see the light. Its one hard but meaningful moment of truth and awareness. “An illumination in the darkness of ignorance” says Pema.  Here- when getting to know your fears and facing sadness and suffering- you are able to realize how much harm you have done to yourself…. and also the harm you have caused to others and from this stating point, a sense of forgiveness and of acceptance arrives. In the case of disappointment I will leave it all to Pema who wise fully says: “When there’s a disappointment, I don’t know if it’s the end of the story. It may just be the beginning of a great adventure.”

Pema Chödrön, an American Buddhist Nun and meditation master of a Tibetan Buddhist Practice, wrote a book called “When Things Fall Apart”, a book that both me and my very good friend Efy are currently reading. Will be back with a lil more from it… ❤Image

Advertisements

Twilight – Crepúsculo

These nights I have slept without smoke and without fear.
No thunders, no lightning, just a twilight that persists, with extreme colors.
A sunset shot ended the light blue and artificial smoke in the sky, no one could stop it.
Today, I will write poems for myself, I said, like birds establishing their own flight.
But that sunset persists, neutral, without descriptions, full of heat and kisses.

Estas noches he dormido sin humo y sin miedo. Ningún estruendo, ningún rayo, solo un crepúsculo que persiste con colores extremos.
Un atardecer disparado que acabó con el azul y con el humo en el cielo, nadie lo pudo detener.
Hoy escribiré poemas para mi misma, digo, como los pájaros que establecen su propio vuelo.
Pero ese atardecer persiste, neutro, sin descripciones, lleno de calores y de besos.

20130808-093312.jpg